Im In An Open Relationship

Something not many people know about me is that I'm in an open relationship. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 7 months now and from the beginning we decided to be open with each other. No, I don't mean we sleep with other people, by open I mean we are completely honest with each other. For instance, we went to state fair awhile back with a friend. As we walked thru the crowd of people, we would randomly compliment on the sexy men that passed us. Our friend was stunned. He couldn't believe that we talked about how pretty another guys eyes were or that another guy had nice lips. The common experience is that once you enter into a relationship with someone, everyone else is suppose to disappear. My boyfriend and I realize that just because your with someone doesn't mean that your senses just stop working. We both still find other men attractive, but we understand the look, but don't touch rule. As long as were honest and talk about other men to each other, there is no need to hide it and try to sneak a peek at someone else around each other. This level of honesty and openness brings us closer together. Were also open about our desires, wants, and needs. Sometimes our honesty would be considered harsh to other people. If I think my boyfriend looks ugly with a certain hairstyle, ill tell him it looks ugly. Most people would call this mean, but if you cant be totally honest with the person you claim to love, than why are you with them? The things we say to each other, most couples would never dream of even uttering around their partner. Those things are saved for when they are separate and around friends they can be open with. Ive dated guys in the past that if they even caught me looking at another guy, it would turn into World War III. I felt like a prisoner who has lost all his rights. I understand that some people think this is disrespectful to your partner, but every couple is different. The difference with us is, my boyfriend is also my best friend. We tell each other things that no one else knows about us. I believe that everything isn't for everyone. So what works for us, might not work for your relationship. All I can say is, if you cant be yourself in your relationship, than who are you? 

You Think You're Cooler Than Me...

Isn't it funny how some people can see everyone elses situation so clear, but they can never turn the mirror on themselves? These people have no problem pointing out everything you do wrong and criticizing your every mistake. When it comes to themselves, they believe they are perfect or at least they pretend to be perfect. Ive had a few experiences with these people. They have this sort of arrogance about themselves. Felling like they are some how better than other people because they put on a front. In their mind they are only being helpful. Giving their point of view on life problems. Telling you what you need to do to better yourself, but how can you teach someone else how to fly when you cant even get off the ground? There is a old saying that goes "When you point the finger at someone, you have 3 others pointing back at you." For example, I know a guy who has a "gay son" he tries to mentor. He gives his son advice on life, relationships, etc. Which is good because we all need someone in our lives to help steer us in the right direction when were getting off course. But, in this situation, the guy has low self-esteem, no job, never been in a positive relationship... How can he give someone else advice when he doesn't even have his own shit together? Its the blind leading the blind.