Cheaters never win.

Why do people cheat? I know there are a variety of opinions on this topic. For some cheating is absolutely without a doubt wrong and they'd never even think about doing it. For others it's just apart of life because people are sexual beings and we're not meant to have sex with just one person forever. I sort of fall in the middle of these two theories. I'll admit I've cheated in past relationships and also in my current relationship. It's not because I'm unhappy or anything like that, I just like to experience new people... new sex. I believe everyone has there own sexual energy and when two people's energies mix, you get a variety of outcomes. Sometimes your sexual energy just doesn't mix with someone else's. Even though they may be physically attractive to you, the sexual element just doesn't feel right. Those are what I call a major let down. You got this fine ass dude naked in your bed and when it's all said and done, instead of explosions and fireworks, you get a sparkler. Now on the other hand, you have those people (like my ex) where the sexual chemistry is so strong that you want to rip their clothes off every time you see them. Those are the ones I really enjoy. Those are the people that make me a cheater. Their sexual energy mixes with mine so well that it's almost like a drug. Now, for me, when I do step outside my relationship it's only about sex. My boyfriend and I have good sex. I'd rate our sexual energies a 7 or an 8. So sometimes I go looking for a sexual 10. Side note... I get so much mentally, emotionally, and spiritually from my boyfriend that I'm so happy with him. I'd never think of ruining what we have. That's why anyone I sleep with knows that it's just sex, that's it! So to answer the question, why do people cheat? For me, the answer is variety. I really like Frosted Flakes, it gives me everything I need and so much more. But sometimes, I want to try Fruit Loops or Cheerios. What do you think? Let me know.

Im In An Open Relationship

Something not many people know about me is that I'm in an open relationship. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 7 months now and from the beginning we decided to be open with each other. No, I don't mean we sleep with other people, by open I mean we are completely honest with each other. For instance, we went to state fair awhile back with a friend. As we walked thru the crowd of people, we would randomly compliment on the sexy men that passed us. Our friend was stunned. He couldn't believe that we talked about how pretty another guys eyes were or that another guy had nice lips. The common experience is that once you enter into a relationship with someone, everyone else is suppose to disappear. My boyfriend and I realize that just because your with someone doesn't mean that your senses just stop working. We both still find other men attractive, but we understand the look, but don't touch rule. As long as were honest and talk about other men to each other, there is no need to hide it and try to sneak a peek at someone else around each other. This level of honesty and openness brings us closer together. Were also open about our desires, wants, and needs. Sometimes our honesty would be considered harsh to other people. If I think my boyfriend looks ugly with a certain hairstyle, ill tell him it looks ugly. Most people would call this mean, but if you cant be totally honest with the person you claim to love, than why are you with them? The things we say to each other, most couples would never dream of even uttering around their partner. Those things are saved for when they are separate and around friends they can be open with. Ive dated guys in the past that if they even caught me looking at another guy, it would turn into World War III. I felt like a prisoner who has lost all his rights. I understand that some people think this is disrespectful to your partner, but every couple is different. The difference with us is, my boyfriend is also my best friend. We tell each other things that no one else knows about us. I believe that everything isn't for everyone. So what works for us, might not work for your relationship. All I can say is, if you cant be yourself in your relationship, than who are you? 

You Think You're Cooler Than Me...

Isn't it funny how some people can see everyone elses situation so clear, but they can never turn the mirror on themselves? These people have no problem pointing out everything you do wrong and criticizing your every mistake. When it comes to themselves, they believe they are perfect or at least they pretend to be perfect. Ive had a few experiences with these people. They have this sort of arrogance about themselves. Felling like they are some how better than other people because they put on a front. In their mind they are only being helpful. Giving their point of view on life problems. Telling you what you need to do to better yourself, but how can you teach someone else how to fly when you cant even get off the ground? There is a old saying that goes "When you point the finger at someone, you have 3 others pointing back at you." For example, I know a guy who has a "gay son" he tries to mentor. He gives his son advice on life, relationships, etc. Which is good because we all need someone in our lives to help steer us in the right direction when were getting off course. But, in this situation, the guy has low self-esteem, no job, never been in a positive relationship... How can he give someone else advice when he doesn't even have his own shit together? Its the blind leading the blind.

One check away...

Have you ever heard the saying "One pay check away from homelessness"? These past couple years in America have been very hard on everyone. This is the first time since the depression that so many people have been out of work and struggling. Ive been feeling this just as much as anyone else. Even though I have a full time job, I'm barely living pay check to pay check. Its not even like I have unnecessary bills either, but the same bills that were manageable are now over-whelming. Friends just say I need to budget my money, but how do you budget something that doesn't exist? Getting a pay raise is nearly impossible and when you work full time, getting some type of government assistance is out of the question. So what do you do? Its enough to make anyone just give up trying. Just when I think I see a little relief coming. Just when I think everything is about to be ok, I get stomach punched, my car breaks down or other unexpected charges come from no where. I try to stay positive and just believe this is all temporary, but hope only takes you so far. I am apart of a new group of people referred to as "The Working Poor". People who have jobs, but still can barely afford to survive. People have gone from deciding whether to buy satellite or cable to deciding whether to eat this week or put gas in the car. On top of all this, bill collectors are becoming more and more persistent. Not only do they call your cell 50 times a day, but they now call your work number, your family, your friends, your 7th grade math teacher. These people do not know how to take NO as an answer. You tell them you don't even know how you're gonna pay your rent this money and they still badger you over $150 from an old cell phone bill you owe. So now that the holidays are over, businesses should begin hiring again. Quiting just isnt apart of me so time to come up with a plan. All I can do is try my best and make each day count. If it comes down to it, ill change my name to Caramel Thunder and get hired at a strip club... LOL. J/K.   

For The Love of Jesus.

According to the constitution, Freedom of religion is a principle that supports the freedom of an individual or community, in public or private, to manifest religion or belief in teaching, practice, worship, and observance; the concept is generally recognized also to include the freedom to change religion or not to follow any religion. So my question is, when did freedom of religion turn into freedom of Christianity? When did Christians get to the point where they support someones freedom to express their beliefs as long as the belief they're expressing is the Christian belief? I'm not saying all Christians are like this or that they are the only religion that does this, but in my experience that's who I get it from the most. As a non-believer I have an outside view of religion. One of the biggest things I notice about Christians is the fact that they won't even acknowledge any religion other than their own. They have no knowledge of what other religions believe or worship. When I tell people I'm Agnostic, I usually get 1 of 2 responses. They either respond "So you worship the devil?" or they say "Is that like pentecostal?" I've seen and heard Christians mock other religions as stupid or crazy for the things they worship or their religious practices. If someone says anything to them that goes against what they believe, they completely shut down and don't want to hear any of it. Ive gotten to the point where I don't even like to bring up religion because instead of becoming an adult conversation were two people discuss they're views on a topic. It becomes them preaching at me and trying to save my immortal soul because that's the "Christianly" thing to do. What they don't understand is if they would actually read the book that they are so quick to throw in peoples faces. They would see that the Jesus they worship only preached love and acceptance. He never pushed upon anyone, he didn't use scare tactics to get people to follow him, he just loved everyone. These days, it has become very evident that there is a big difference between being Christ like and being Christian. They have become so quick to look down they're noses at anything they deem to be un-christianly. So where did this Christian arrogance come from? When the pilgrims fled Europe and established the first American colonies, it was to escape religious persecution. It was so they could have the freedom to worship god in the way they believed to be correct. So in-between then and now, when this nation become the very thing it was trying to escape from? It goes without saying that the USA is a christian nation. Just turn on the TV during an election. The politician that wins is the one that proves he's a bigger Christian. Not the one that's fighting to have prayer removed from schools because not everyone prays or the one that supports a mosque being built in every neighborhood in an effort to support diversity. Its the blue blooded, bible thumping, "god fearing" (which I've never understood why being afraid of god is a good thing) christian. According to a recent survey done, only 51.3% of Americans identify as Protestant, 23.9% identify as Catholic, the 3rd largest religious group.... Non-believers at 16.1%. So why are we all being so polite to the majority when we cant even get the same courtesy? A random person could walk thru walmart wearing a t-shirt that says "Real men love Jesus" and no one would give him a second thought except maybe to compliment him. But if that same person were wearing a shirt that read "There is no god!" they probably be met with alot of good ol' down home christian hate... and depending on which state they're in wouldn't make it out the parking lot alive. Can these people really think they're beliefs are better than everyone elses? When you say things like "I don't hate you, god hates you!" or "The lord is the only one who can pass judgement, but you're gonna burn in hell for your sins." When you gossip behind your neighbors back while in church. When you think going to church 7 days out the week will make up for the fact that you beat your wife and kids. When you make members of your own church feel uncomfortable to simply just be themselves. How could you possibly think you're setting a good example of what the love of god is? Even if they are right and in the end god is real and Christianity turns out to be the best way. I'm pretty sure a big chunk of that 51.3% wont be getting thru the pearly gates.

Fortune

Maybe about 7 years ago, I went to your average Chinese buffet to eat. My favorite part of going to Chinese buffets isn't just the all you can eat cause I'm a fat ass, but it's getting the fortune cookie at the end. Well, on this particular time, I got my fortune cookie and the fortune simply stated "Admire those who succeed and learn from their success." I loved this fortune so much that I kept it and I still have it in my wallet to this day. It took me a couple years for this message to really hit me, but it finally did. Back then the people I mostly associated with were a group of good people, but they really had no direction. To them life was about hanging out, the club, and men... that's about it. And it was fun at the time, but I had to realize that people are like goldfish. If you keep the goldfish in a small bowl it will stay small, but if you put a goldfish in a bigger tank it will grow. My friends lived in a small tank and I was allowing them to keep me there. Eventually I made the decision that I wanted to grow. I wanted more out of life and I needed to associate myself with like minded people. If I wanted to become more I needed to leave the small tank and swim with bigger fish in the bigger bowl. So I did. When my friends found out I was trying to grow as a person, they tried to cut me down and bring me back to their tank. So I had to stop associating with people who would rather see me stay small instead of encourage me. It might be a hard thing to do, but true friends with push you up to the next level instead of drag you back down with them. This realization not only went for friends, but also for the type of guys I dated. I got tired of dating guys that didn't have anything going for themselves. Not to mean I'm a gold digger or anything because I can take care of myself. I don't need a man with lots of money, an expansive car, or a big house. I need a man with drive, ambition, and potential. He has to want something from life and has to want more for himself. I have alot in life that I want to accomplish and I need someone that can be right there next to me on the journey. Not someone thats just along for the ride. When i make the decision to open my restaurant, he needs to be doing his thing too so we can both be living up to our fullest potential. So now I have matured and started expecting more from myself. I'm still the same person and will hang out with anyone, but the people I now closely associate with are on a more defined lifepath. They're actually trying to do something with their lives and they inspire me to do the same. I now have a better job and im in school working toward starting a career. I also have become more active in my community and more aware of current events that effect me personally. Im now doing things like voting that the old me thought was a waste of time. Admire those who succeed and learn from their success.

Dead or Alive

One of the movie genres that has been around for the longest is the zombie movie and ive always been a fan. They may change the cause of the zombie infestation, but the main story stays pretty much the same. Zombies start attacking the world, random group of individuals ban together to stay alive, most die, but a few make it out alive. The only difference is back in the day, the zombies were slower. It use to be that zombies were slow and dumb. The only thing they had in their favor was their numbers. If you were stupid enough to get trapped by a group of zombies, you were a goner. These new breed of zombies however are faster, smarter, and some even use weapons against you. Watching these movies, I've always wondered were this to happen in real life, would I survive? And I believe I would. First I'd head to some sporting store to load up on as many weapons as I can carry. Second, I'd stop at walmart knock off any zombies that get in my way and stock up on can goods, tools, first-aid, etc. Last, I'd find a secure location, take out any zombies lurking in the area and hold up until rescue comes. There is only one drawback to this plan... any individuals who come along wanting help. You always see it in zombie movies. Someone is doing just fine by themselves until they get that knock on the door "HELP ME PLEASE!!!!" This is where the persons conscience kicks in and they end up helping whoever is outside. Before you know it, the zombies surround the place, break in, and your dead all because you wanted to be a hero. So, what do I do? Do I help this person in need and risk possibly losing my own life or do I say "every man for himself" and let them suffer? This situation brings up a better question. How important is your own life compared to a total strangers? We dont see it too often, but it does happen. Someone will be in danger and a complete stranger will risk their life to save them. Its very touching and reminds us all that were not so different and anyone can be a hero. But, if the world turns into a struggle of humans against zombies, how "human" are you if you turn your back on someone in need? If I were in a fight for my life against the undead, I'd prefer to have someone there to watch my back also for company. It wouldn't take long being alone before I turned into Tom Hanks in the movie Castaway and start having conversations with volleyballs. At the same time, I wouldn't want to risk my life because of someone elses stupidity. The more people you have grouped together, sooner or later someone gets stupid and puts everyones life at risk. At the first sighting of this person I'd put the safety of the greater good in front of him and put a bullet in his head. I know that sounds cruel, but if it came down to you dying or someone else dying... Which would you choose?